“It’s not the years in your life that count; it’s the life in your years”
Bravo to Desperate Housewives for their most touching episode so far. Well, it’s about one of the scariest word in the world: “DEATH”.
Same as talking about sex with the youngsters, death is a very sensitive topic that most people ignore/ avoid because of fear of inviting them to their lives.
Anyway, the episode (100th episode) was about the neighborhood’s handyman, Eli. After years of fixing stuff, he finally decided to retire and travel to Hawaii. But his plans didn’t go well because during his last day at work, he had a heart attack while working to fix Susan’s roof. When everybody learned of his death, they started to remember the “little fixes” he’s done not just in their homes, but lives as well.
It was Eli who talked Gabriel into being nice so she could be welcomed by the neighborhood. He motivated Bree to pursue her dream of writing her own cookbook. When Edie lost her self-esteem, he was there to assure her she was beautiful. Eli saved Lynette’s baby from suffocation when she accidentally left her in the car. And he was there to comfort Susan after her divorce was finalized. Those things might sound too simple to remember. But with those simple acts he was able to help them get to where they are right now.
The scene that tore me up the most was when Mary Alice saw a hole in his shoe which he tried to cover up with tape. It was her who introduced him to the whole neighborhood. Before she died, she gave him a vase (the first thing he fixed for her) as a gratitude because he’s one of those people “who walk into one’s life and make it better than before”. When he learned of her death, he was frustrated because he felt he didn’t try enough to help her. So he promised himself that from that time on, he will dedicate his life helping everybody and that’s what he exactly did. Thanks to Mary Alice, Eli was able to touch many lives.
For the final scene, Bree saw a fallen flower from a bouquet on top of his coffin. While putting it back said, “Let me fix something for him, for a change”.
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The episode above is related to a conversation we had a few nights back. You see, Sec. Robredo’s death due to plane crash was all over the news. Also, Ian’s 33 year old friend died in his sleep a week ago. Unfortunately, he left his wife and son earlier than everybody expected. So we tried to imagine. What if we took a 2-hour plane drive which ended up crashing. Or what if we slept that night and never woke up the next day. Scary right? Then we realized that if we will die this soon, people will forget us right away because we will not have anything to leave behind like children, properties, heroic deeds, movies, etc. We were just ordinary people who lived on earth and did nothing worth remembering. Geez, that’s more terrifying.
Also, after their deaths, people started leaving messages saying how great and kind they were when they were alive and how much they will be missed, etc. Then another thought: Why don’t we say our “eulogies” even before our loved ones die so they will still be able to hear and feel the messages? Shouldn’t we thank them for stepping into our lives and making it better while they can still hear us? Is it too much to say “Sorry”, “Thank you”, and “I love you” every day? Well, if you remember Friendster, there’s a space in your page where people can write testimonials about you. They reveal funny, distasteful, and all other things they love about you. It’s the same concept as having a eulogy right? So why can’t we say the words in person? Every day, let’s try to say something nice to our parents, siblings, partners, friends, or even co-workers. Hmm…
The fact that life on earth is temporary hence should be maximized is always reminded by deaths happening around us. We see death in the family, neighborhood, newspaper, and television. Some deaths maybe predicted (old age, cancer, or irreparable complications) and some come so sudden (nightmare, heart attack, calamities, crimes and accidents) and people die unprepared. That is
life death — painful and real.
Have you tried to imagine how and when will you die? Have you wondered what people will say on your eulogy? Have you tried counting how many will be thankful and how many will grieve on your departure? And if you’re afraid to be forgotten over time, have you thought of any legacy you will leave behind?
These questions may sound funny to us. Most might not even want to think of their death this early. But if we will only think of every day as if it’s the last, we might be able to maximize and enjoy it better than we do now. We will appreciate beautiful mornings, the outdoor breeze, food on the table, and even the most annoying people around us. We will try harder to achieve our dreams and do something good for others. Most specially, we will try our best to make the most out of each day by spending it with important people in our lives.